Leaving an Abuser

 


Gathering Evidence: Make sure to gather evidence of the abuse and Make sure to keep it in a safe place were the abuser can't find it if you have a friend ask if it can be kept at there home or in a bank safe  evidence that can be helpful include pictures of bruises or other injuries, records that you have from doctors or the police, Keeping a journal about the abuse and explain what he/she did and make sure to keep things dated.

 

Who to Contact: If you are in immediate danger contact the Police, Contact your local domestic violence organization or battered women's shelter. They can tell you about laws and other resources available to you before you have to use  them during a crisis.


Making Records: If you are hurt, go to a doctor or an emergency room. Tell them what happened. Ask them to make a record of your visit and what happened and Get a copy.


What about my Children? Plan with your children. Figure out a safe place for them to go. like a room with a lock or a friend's house where they can go for help. Make sure they know that their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.


Setting Money Aside: Try to set money aside. You can ask friends or family members to hold money for you so that your abuser cannot use it. Try to acquire job skills by taking classes at a community college or a vocational school. This will help you get a job so you won't  need to be dependent financially on your abuser.


 What if i was Sexually Assaulted?              
if you were raped contact the Police immediately, as hard as it may feel make sure not to take a shower after the abuse to help protect evidence.
put the clothes you wore in a paper bag. using a plastic bag tampers with evidence but if  there's none around get a clean shirt and wrap it around. call the police immediately after an assault.